The Best Advice on Life and Relationships I Ever Got From the Internet

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If you’re looking for advice, it’s not hard to find. We live in a day and age where every self-proclaimed philosopher can log in to their free blog platform and launch their own brand of wisdom out into the digital world at large, whether it’s worth reading or not.

Like any guy on the Internet, I’ve come across my fair share of awful advice. These terrible tidbits have ranged from self-soothing to delusional to straight up selfish and potentially harmful. But, I’m also happy to declare that I’ve also read a good deal of seriously useful pieces on living a successful life or maintaining a healthy relationship.

First, I’d like to share what is probably the harshest but also the most helpful truth I’ve ever come across: The rest of the world only cares about what it can get from you. Being a “good person” or a “nice guy” is just not enough. What can you do? What do you contribute? Do you have any useful talents or work in a respectable and skilled profession?

If you currently possess none of these attributes, it is time for you to put effort into developing yourself. This may sound like a cruel and defeatist attitude to some people, but in a realistic perspective, I found it highly encouraging in terms of creating new personal goals.

On a similar note, I recently read some related advice on how to attract women and kindle positive romantic relationships: You don’t attract people by tricking them into thinking you’re cool and attractive. You attract people by actually being attractive.

To be attractive, you have to be a better person. Trying to learn tricks and “game” is a waste of time and will get you nothing but shallow, easily manipulated partners. You have to become a whole, interesting, self-fulfilled and confident human being before you’re going to successfully and truly attract a smart, self-aware person who’s worth your time.

It’s great to do what you love, but you have to figure out a way to get someone to pay you for doing it.  Life costs money and you’d be an idiot to think you can find safety and success in your life without putting in some effort to make money.

Therefore, most people will never work their real “dream job“, but that doesn’t mean you have to live and die working the graveyard shift stocking shelves to make ends meet. There are compromises. Find something you like, and then put in the effort to make it profitable for you.

Finally, there’s that age-old cliché that still holds true: You can’t make everyone happy. This is not advice to excuse you from being lazy, rude, or having a terrible personality, but it’s true that no matter what you do, someone somewhere is not going to like it.

It’s a lot like how chocolate is good for your brain but bad for your arteries, and red wine is great for your heart but terrible for your liver. It’s a give and take, and it’s your responsibility to either find a middle ground or make peace with the fact that not everyone is going to like you.

Yes, some of the most truthful advice is also the harshest, but it can also be the most transformative. If all we ever listened to were the things we want to hear or the things that make us feel happy and safe, we’d never be encouraged to grow and improve as human beings.

Remember that if it placates you without teaching you anything, it’s probably terrible advice and it’s holding you back from personal growth. It’s the words that provoke your intellectual side and even make you slightly uncomfortable that will spur you towards new progress in your life.

A 4 a.m. Call About Business Valuations in Sydney

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My day started like this:

I was startled awake at 4 a.m. by the obnoxious sound of my cell phone.  Who would even think to call someone at 4 a.m.?  I didn’t recognize the number, but I still answered it, because if someone in calling at 4 in the morning either someone died or they are going to drunkenly profess their love to you.

Either way I still needed to know.  It was my friend, Rich, in Sydney.

“Palmer, you do that internet thingy right?” Oh man, he was drunk and wanted to talk business.

“Yeah, mate, I research cool stuff on the internet,” I told him.

“Awesome, I need you to find me a place that does business valuations here in Sydney.”

“What? Why would you need me to do that?” I asked him.  “You can just do a web search yourself.”

“No man, no.  I NEED your help, the internet is too confusing right now, and I want to know how much my business is worth.”

“Alright Rich, but first you have to confess your love for me.”

“What, did you say?”

“You heard me Rich; tell me how much you love me.”

“Oh Palmer, My bounty is as boundless as the sea,
My love as deep; the more I give to thee,
The more I have, for both are infinite.

That was from Romeo and Juliet, I had to look it up.

“Yeah Rich that was great thanks.”

Once I hung up the phone I went back to sleep for a little while, but I kept dreaming of Rich confessing his love to me which made me a little uncomfortable in my dreams, but I asked for it. After I woke up and had a bit of a breakfast I decided to find Rich a valuation.

I found Valuator .  They do business valuations in Sydney.  According to their “about” page, “Our highly regarded professionals specialise in Commercial and Residential valuation services. Provided through best practice principles, forefront production and communication technology; our professionals are committed to providing cost effective, commercially-based and technically-sound consultancy advice to our broad range of clients who include a variety of investment and commercial investors, corporations and property owners from around Australia.

If you are looking to get something valued then the team at valuator.com.au can help.

We are Australia’s leading valuation company and specialise in valuing the assets of your business.”

According to their website their services include industrial property valuation, commercial property valuation, and business valuation ad machinery valuation. So no matter what Rich needs them for I’m sure that they will be a good match.

I sent Rich an e-mail with all this information on it, and a half an hour I get another call.

“Palmer, how did you know that I needed this information?”

“You called me at 4 this morning, Rich.”

“No I didn’t!”

“Yes you did, check your call history.”

A minute passes….

“Oh, um, sorry about that Palmer, but thanks for getting the information for me!”

“No problem Rich, and remember, My bounty is as boundless as the sea,
My love as deep; the more I give to thee,
The more I have, for both are infinite.

10 Enticing Places that You Cannot Visit

10 Very Cool Places that You Cannot Visit

There are some beautiful destinations to visit in the world and plenty to see when you get there. But, I wanted to know if there are any places in the world that you cannot visit. Guess what. There are. Here are 10  cool out of bounds places that I found on my vacation around the internet

France – Lascaux Caves

projet_eco_photo09These are a cave complex in Southwestern France, which are out of bounds because of their Paleolithic cave paintings.  More than 900 perfect examples have been preserved, some of which are around 17,300 years old. The caves were closed to the public in 1963 and, in 1979, was included in the UNESCO World Heritage Sites list.

Italy – A Small Haunted Island

Poveglia is a tiny island between Lido and Venice in Northern Italy. It was always used as a dumping ground for diseased people and those who had died. During the Bubonic Plague, it was used as a place of quarantine where bodies were regularly burned on huge pyres. It was used again in 1922 as a quarantine station and then converted to an asylum for the mentally ill in 1922.  It closed in 1968 and is reported to be haunted. Today, it remains closed to the public.

Italy – The Vatican Secret Archives

This is the place in the Vatican City where all the acts promoted by the Holy See are stored.  Also contained in there are state papers, papal accounts, and a whole lot of other documents accumulated over the years.  The secret archives were split from the Vatican Library in the 17th Century and remain closed to all but a few people to this day.

indexEthiopia – The Church of Our Lady Mary of Zion

This church, located in Ethiopia, is claimed to be home to the Original Ark of the Covenant, one of the most important objects in biblical history.  The only person allowed access is a monk who is specially chosen. No other person is allowed to enter or lay eyes on the object.

China – The Jiansu National Security Education museum

This museum houses top-secret documentation concerning Chinese Espionage, as well documents and gadgets that date back to 1927, the year the Communist Party Central Committee Espionage Department was founded. Think James Bond and you will have a good idea of the type of gadgets stored in the Museum.  Only Chinese nationals are allowed to enter the Museum but photography is strictly prohibited.

Hawaii – Exotic island called Niihau

The seventh largest inhabited island in Hawaii, Niihau contains no roads, no stores; it has no electricity or plumbing. It does however have a school run by solar power.  It is a private island and has been closed to the public in order to preserve the wildlife and the indigenous culture of the island.

offlimits08f_01Australia – Pine Gap

This is the only place in Australia that is prohibited and is a satellite tracking station in Central Australia.  It is a large complex that controls the spy satellites of America tracking China, Russia and the oil fields in the Middle East.

Israel – Negev Nuclear Research Center

This one is a nuclear facility in the Negev Desert. It was closed in 2012 and airspace over the top is closed to aircraft. It is heavily guarded against attack and from people attempting to gain entry.

Japan – Ise Grand Shrine

This is a Shinto Shrine that has been dedicated to the Goddess Amareasu-omikami. It is an important holy site and access is limited to priests and priestesses who are members of the Japanese Imperial family.  2 of the buildings in the shrine are rebuilt every 20 years, according to the original blueprint from 1000 years ago.

Met2Russia – Metro-2

Metro-s is an informal name for a secret underground metro system in Russia. It apparently runs alongside the public underground in Moscow and was built by the KGB.  Unfortunately, there is no evidence to back up whether this is real or just speculation but there are still those who claim to have helped build it.

 

 

19 Incredible things Pope Francis did in 2013

I’m not much of a fan of religion.

If it’s your thing, that’s great – I hope it serves you well – it’s just that it’s not my thing.

One of the things that really gets me about religion is the MASSIVE contradictions in the way that ‘good’ Christians are supposed to live their lives and the way that the leaders of the Christian religion live their lives.

The people I’m talking about are the priests, bishops, arch-bishops, and of course, the big daddy of them all, the Pope.

For all the people who feel the same, I’m sharing this article about Pope Francis.

This is the leader of the Christian religion and he’s a dude.

He’s doing great things, helping amazing people and loving life.

Check it out here: I Knew Pope Francis Was Good, But When I Found Out Everything He Did in 2013, I Was Blown Away