The Best Advice on Life and Relationships I Ever Got From the Internet

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If you’re looking for advice, it’s not hard to find. We live in a day and age where every self-proclaimed philosopher can log in to their free blog platform and launch their own brand of wisdom out into the digital world at large, whether it’s worth reading or not.

Like any guy on the Internet, I’ve come across my fair share of awful advice. These terrible tidbits have ranged from self-soothing to delusional to straight up selfish and potentially harmful. But, I’m also happy to declare that I’ve also read a good deal of seriously useful pieces on living a successful life or maintaining a healthy relationship.

First, I’d like to share what is probably the harshest but also the most helpful truth I’ve ever come across: The rest of the world only cares about what it can get from you. Being a “good person” or a “nice guy” is just not enough. What can you do? What do you contribute? Do you have any useful talents or work in a respectable and skilled profession?

If you currently possess none of these attributes, it is time for you to put effort into developing yourself. This may sound like a cruel and defeatist attitude to some people, but in a realistic perspective, I found it highly encouraging in terms of creating new personal goals.

On a similar note, I recently read some related advice on how to attract women and kindle positive romantic relationships: You don’t attract people by tricking them into thinking you’re cool and attractive. You attract people by actually being attractive.

To be attractive, you have to be a better person. Trying to learn tricks and “game” is a waste of time and will get you nothing but shallow, easily manipulated partners. You have to become a whole, interesting, self-fulfilled and confident human being before you’re going to successfully and truly attract a smart, self-aware person who’s worth your time.

It’s great to do what you love, but you have to figure out a way to get someone to pay you for doing it.  Life costs money and you’d be an idiot to think you can find safety and success in your life without putting in some effort to make money.

Therefore, most people will never work their real “dream job“, but that doesn’t mean you have to live and die working the graveyard shift stocking shelves to make ends meet. There are compromises. Find something you like, and then put in the effort to make it profitable for you.

Finally, there’s that age-old cliché that still holds true: You can’t make everyone happy. This is not advice to excuse you from being lazy, rude, or having a terrible personality, but it’s true that no matter what you do, someone somewhere is not going to like it.

It’s a lot like how chocolate is good for your brain but bad for your arteries, and red wine is great for your heart but terrible for your liver. It’s a give and take, and it’s your responsibility to either find a middle ground or make peace with the fact that not everyone is going to like you.

Yes, some of the most truthful advice is also the harshest, but it can also be the most transformative. If all we ever listened to were the things we want to hear or the things that make us feel happy and safe, we’d never be encouraged to grow and improve as human beings.

Remember that if it placates you without teaching you anything, it’s probably terrible advice and it’s holding you back from personal growth. It’s the words that provoke your intellectual side and even make you slightly uncomfortable that will spur you towards new progress in your life.

Top Five Most Watched Shows on Netflix

What should I watch on Netflix? We all ask ourselves this; at least everyone who has a Netflix account does, it usually happens after we’ve finished our latest binge on a series. You know, that moment when you’re laying on your bed or couch, still astounded by the ending of the series you just watched and you’re trying to figure out what to do with your life. Well I’ve taken the time to comb the Internet and although, many different sites give different opinions as to what is the most watched, I comprised a list of the shows that trend through most of these sites.

 

1.)  Breaking Bad- How fitting that just about any site you go to for “Most watched shows on Netflix” will turn up Breaking Bad as the number one choice. Fitting because it’s a show about cooking meth, a highly addictive drug people binge on. Makes me laugh that people are binging on a show about a drug that people binge on. Breaking Bad isn’t just about cooking meth, of course. It’s about a man diagnosed with terminal cancer goes into the drug dealing business to set his family up financially.

 

Top 5 Most Watched Shows on Netflix

2.)  Orange is the New Black- This show has dramatic and comedic traits to it. A woman, Piper, gets sent to prison and has to learn about the ins-and-outs of being a cellmate. Full of all sorts of interesting character from a territorial kitchen lady, to a jerk prison guard, and everything in between this one will definitely pull on those heart strings a bit.

 

3.)  Mad Men- Now if you’re still scrolling through Netflix because neither of the previous listed shows are exactly your cup of tea, then how about a cup of scotch. That’s exactly what this show feels like. Mad Men is a series about men of advertisement in the 1960’s in the city that never sleeps, New York. Staying classy is what these men are about, suits, money, women, booze and cigarettes. Basically as close to the 1960’s as you can get through your computer screen.

Top 5 Most watched shows on Netflix

4.)  House of Cards- Interested in a more political show, with just as much drama, deception, and suits as Mad Men. Well House of Cards is the way to go, Kevin Spacey plays a conniving congressmen willing to do just about anything to make it through the ranks.

 

5.)  Walking Dead- Alright so personally, I’m not a huge fan of all these politics, I want to see some action and have the pants scared off of me, or in this case my pajamas. Walking Dead portrays a zombie apocalypse. Now I know what you’re thinking, “Great another zombie apocalypse movie.” However this is a series, you don’t watch this small group of people slowly dwindle till all that’s left is one guy and one girl. This show starts with a group of people that over time you get attached to and later will in fact die. Then more characters that you will get attached to come into the picture as well as other groups of people. In my opinion this show turns a zombie movie from a 2D picture to a 3D sculpture.

Top 5 Most Watched Netflix Shows

Has this article made you curious yet? Have you already gone to Netflix to start watching the pilot episode of one of these shows yet? I know I’m planning on it, time to bust out the popcorn and soda. The not so convenient thing about Netflix though is when you get all curious and excited to start a new show, but wait, Netflix isn’t available in the country your in? It was working just fine back in the states but during your trip to Asia you find out you have to go without Netflix. Oh but guess what you don’t have to go without, just go to this site to find out about geo-blocking, and which VPN is best for accessing Netflix.

A 4 a.m. Call About Business Valuations in Sydney

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My day started like this:

I was startled awake at 4 a.m. by the obnoxious sound of my cell phone.  Who would even think to call someone at 4 a.m.?  I didn’t recognize the number, but I still answered it, because if someone in calling at 4 in the morning either someone died or they are going to drunkenly profess their love to you.

Either way I still needed to know.  It was my friend, Rich, in Sydney.

“Palmer, you do that internet thingy right?” Oh man, he was drunk and wanted to talk business.

“Yeah, mate, I research cool stuff on the internet,” I told him.

“Awesome, I need you to find me a place that does business valuations here in Sydney.”

“What? Why would you need me to do that?” I asked him.  “You can just do a web search yourself.”

“No man, no.  I NEED your help, the internet is too confusing right now, and I want to know how much my business is worth.”

“Alright Rich, but first you have to confess your love for me.”

“What, did you say?”

“You heard me Rich; tell me how much you love me.”

“Oh Palmer, My bounty is as boundless as the sea,
My love as deep; the more I give to thee,
The more I have, for both are infinite.

That was from Romeo and Juliet, I had to look it up.

“Yeah Rich that was great thanks.”

Once I hung up the phone I went back to sleep for a little while, but I kept dreaming of Rich confessing his love to me which made me a little uncomfortable in my dreams, but I asked for it. After I woke up and had a bit of a breakfast I decided to find Rich a valuation.

I found Valuator .  They do business valuations in Sydney.  According to their “about” page, “Our highly regarded professionals specialise in Commercial and Residential valuation services. Provided through best practice principles, forefront production and communication technology; our professionals are committed to providing cost effective, commercially-based and technically-sound consultancy advice to our broad range of clients who include a variety of investment and commercial investors, corporations and property owners from around Australia.

If you are looking to get something valued then the team at valuator.com.au can help.

We are Australia’s leading valuation company and specialise in valuing the assets of your business.”

According to their website their services include industrial property valuation, commercial property valuation, and business valuation ad machinery valuation. So no matter what Rich needs them for I’m sure that they will be a good match.

I sent Rich an e-mail with all this information on it, and a half an hour I get another call.

“Palmer, how did you know that I needed this information?”

“You called me at 4 this morning, Rich.”

“No I didn’t!”

“Yes you did, check your call history.”

A minute passes….

“Oh, um, sorry about that Palmer, but thanks for getting the information for me!”

“No problem Rich, and remember, My bounty is as boundless as the sea,
My love as deep; the more I give to thee,
The more I have, for both are infinite.

Christmas Trees in Sydney Knocking on Your Door

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Delivery used be a luxury saved for pizza and packages, but nowadays every product, every food, hell even your groceries may be delivered right to your doorstep. So I got to thinking, is there a limit to this madness? Is there something somewhere that is committed to being like a stationary rock on a stationary road in a stationary house, and asks the customer to knock on its stationary door? The answer I found was… not really, man.

What I found out was that Christmas season is a time where anything goes. Cakes, animals, restaurants, everything can and will be sent to your home if it is what you so desire – so long as it fits in a box and can be carried by a burly man from the north side of the south. The item I found especially popular, to my surprise, were Christmas trees.

Maybe I’m just a little too clingy to my childhood innocence, but Christmas trees being mail delivered to your home just seems so wrong. I remember waking up at the crack of dawn to go chop down nature’s beard. I hated it. But it’s a part of the holidays that I can’t imagine not being there. Like Santa or gingerbread men, chopping down trees as Christmas as the baby Jesus himself, probably. Maybe that’s a bit of an overstatement, but businesses around the world are marketing themselves as being just a phone call and a carol away. From New York, to London, to the Christmas Tree Man in Sydney, Australia (where Christmas Day falls in the Summer, I might add) all deliver Christmas trees right to your door.

Soon enough, these mail-approved trees will come already decorated and gifted, giving every citizen of the world to sit on their sofa for each and every Christmas to come.

Beards and Beard Oil – A Quick Look

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I try to bring you guys articles that are interesting and about topics you may not have encountered before. I recently had a discussion with a friend who is trying to grow his beard out and I learned quite a bit about the subject and thought I would share with you what I discovered.

I learned there are a good number of men out there that are super serious when it comes to all things beard related. Dare I say hardcore? Yep, definitely hardcore.

The website www.beards.org has a ton of information and some really interesting pictures in its different galleries. The website explains things like cheek line and neck line and goes on to illustrate the different beard styles. My personal favorite was the chin curtain shown here.

My friend says the hardest thing about growing out a beard is the first month. You just let it grow willy-nilly so you know what you are working with. Using my friend as an example, it does start off looking scruffy and he says it itched for about a week.

Once you get some significant hair growth and can officially call it a beard, there is a good bit of grooming involved to keeping it up. There are videos on YouTube that give great tips and tricks and here is one I found on how to brush your beard. Yes, there is a right and wrong way to brush a beard!

Regular shampoo and conditioner can be used to clean and condition beards but there are product lines out there specifically made for them. They even make hair color for beards. Beard oil is another product that helps keep a beard smooth and healthy looking. I found a large assortment of beard oil at www.beardbrand.com.

I don’t think anyone has to worry about me sporting a beard. I would get about two weeks into the process and give in to the urge to shave. Before I did this bit of research, I always thought of bikers and the outdoorsy type as men who wore beards to avoid shaving. They may not have to shave but there is a lot more to caring for a beard that I never knew about.

Top Ten Most Expensive Websites Ever Sold

Making money with your computerWhen someone starts blogging, they might begin feeling a bit unsure, but still super-excited because they’re creating something that is uniquely their own. I’m sure that most bloggers dream of their blog someday making it so big, that someone offers to pay them thousands or even millions of dollars for it.

Blogging is pretty darn difficult in the beginning, I’m not gonna lie. Getting traffic, monetizing, and finding interesting ways to keep your blog updated frequently are obstacles that many bloggers choose not to face. They give up before they do any real work. Those that stick it through though, often reap pretty big rewards. And some of them reap rewards that most of us can only dream of.

The websites on this list are sites that started out pretty small and then grew into the giants they are today.

 

10. WorldHum.com – 6 Million Dollars

This blog was bought by the Travel Channel for a whopping sum of 6 million bucks. It’s a travel blog that was founded by Michael Yessis and Jim Benning. The blog was host to numerous interviews, essays, reviews, audio and video. According to the founders, “We started World Hum out of our apartments in May 2001 with $35 and one goal: To publish the best travel stories on the Internet.”

Fortunately for them though, they had lots of combined experience with travel writing. To this day, they continue to run their website. Not too shabby for a $35.00 investment!

 

9. Freakonomics.com – 8 Million Dollars

This blog was bought by the New York Times for 8 million dollars. Stephen J. Dubner and Steven D. Levitt, writer and economist, respectively, wrote the best-selling book ‘Freakonomics’. Thus, the Freakonomics blog was born! According to the creators, the book was “a book about cheating teachers, bizarre baby names, self-dealing Realtors, and crack-selling mama’s boys.” Sounds pretty academic right? Ha! That was their angle, they made complex economic concepts simple to understand by the layman. This made it very marketable, and the NY Times jumped on the opportunity. Levitt and Dubner still operate the blog.

 

8. Treehugger.com – Ten Million Dollars

Treehugger.com is, (you guessed it!) an environmental blog. It was started in 2004 by Graham Hill. It was bought by Discovery Communications. According to Hill, “it [the blog] was entirely virtual and was managed from various cities around the world including Barcelona, Bangkok, Buenos Aires and New York.” Travel the world while blogging about the environment and then getting paid 10 million dollars for it sounds pretty darn sweet. Hat’s off to you, Graham.

 

 7. Celebrity-Babies.com – Ten Million Dollars

Celebrity Babies was started by blogger, Danielle Friedland. It was bought by Time, and is now hosted on People.com, the website of People Magazine. The site is actually about the offspring of celebrities, and not what I thought initially- that is was about infant movie stars. Shocking, I know! That would have been way cooler! There are babies out there with resumes longer than mine! But I digress. Back then, the site was receiving a whopping 720,000 visitors per month! I guess people really do love babies.

 

 6. Deadline.com– Fourteen Million Dollars

Initially known as ‘DeadlineHollywoodDaily.com’, Deadline was a blog started by columnist Nikki Finke, for the sole purpose of reporting on the lives of the rich and famous, as well as reports of the latest in show business. She ran this blog all by herself after her column in LA Weekly took off. It was bought by the Mail.com Media Group.

 

5. Bankaholic.com – Fifteen Million Dollars

Bankaholic was started by blogger John Wu. He was the sole (nerdy) operator of the blog until it was bought by Bankrate.com. He provided free financial advice about stuff like credit cards, savings accounts and so on.

According to Tom Evans, the CEO of BankRate, “Bankaholic is ranked high in natural search for both deposit and credit card keywords. We believe their organic traffic will increase our deposit and credit card revenue, and with a high composition of free traffic, will help to improve margins.”

 

4. ArsTechnica.com – Twenty-Five Million Dollars

Ars Technica is a tech ‘news and reviews’ blog that was created by Jon Stokes and Ken Fisher in ’98.It was later bought by Condé Nast. According to the founders, it was designed to be “the best multi-OS, PC hardware, and tech coverage possible while … having fun, being productive, and being as informative and as accurate as possible.”

The official description on the site today reads, “… we specialize in original news and reviews, analysis of technology trends, and expert advice on topics ranging from the most fundamental aspects of technology to the many ways technology is helping us enjoy our world. We work for the reader who not only needs to keep up on technology, but is passionate about it.”

Way to go, Jon and Ken!

 

3.  PaidContent.org – Thirty Million Dollars

Paid Content is a blog that was the brain child of journalist Rafat Ali. According to Ali, the purpose of the blog was to “chronicle the evolution of digital content that is shaping the future of the media, information and entertainment industries.”

The website was bought by the Guardian Media Group. Ali is still involved with the running of the blog, and actually now works for Guardian Media as an editor.

According to PaidContent’s ‘About’ page, “Our belief is that in the near future, all media will be digital media, and we are helping define sustainable business models and innovation within this sector.”

 

2. TechCrunch.com – Thirty Million Dollars

If you have any interest in technology and you don’t live in Siberia, you’ve probably heard of TechCrunch. It was created in 2005 by Michael Arrington. TechCrunch.com was bought by AOL for 30 million dollars. They focus on tech news, information  and interesting start-ups.

 

  1. ConsumerSearch.com – Thirty-Three Million Dollars

ConsumerSearch was founded by Carl Hamaan and Derek Drew in ’99. The interesting thing about it is that they didn’t actually write the reviews nor did they allow third-parties to post reviews. They got the reviews from other sources and then made their reports based on those reviews. It was bought by About.com which is a subsidiary of the New York Times Company.

 

Feeling inspired yet? You should be! All of those websites were started by little bloggers that could. They thought they could, and they did. And you can too. If you’re a blogger and you think you might be sitting on a blogging goldmine, you should probably get it valued by a website broker. It might not sell for millions but you never really know! Learn more about website brokers here. If you don’t think your blog’s worth anything yet, then keep working at it. I’m sure none of these bloggers thought they would be selling their creations for millions of dollars in the beginning.